Self Love

queen-of-apricity:

A small guide to self love from someone who isn’t going to tell you a manicure or face mask will fix everything. Queen loves you, always. There’s so much more but here take this. It’s basically just tips fjhshdoajdks

•Stop reading shit on eating little amounts of food a day to be “thin” and “healthy”. It’s bullshit, it’s lies, run from it.
•Pick a symbol or make one yourself. That symbol is something I want you to hold dear to you. The symbol should mean: self love, recovery, joy, freedom..etc. to you. It can be the fucking “&” symbol. Just pick one, babe.
•Have a motto, or several. Try something inspiring.
•For anorexics: get help, even when you don’t want to. The more you don’t want the help, the more you need the help.
•What’s holding you down that’s toxic? That bitchy ex boyfriend? Drop him. That fucking annoying friend that makes fun of you? Drop. Her.
•Its okay to cry. Cry, im here for you.
•Try to brush your teeth, even though it’s hard.
•Eat a fruit a week if you can.
•Skin issues? Making you hate you more? Tea tree oil, toner, water. Keep a water bottle, the oil, toner, and some tissue by your bed. When you go to sleep, even if you’re tired as hell. Take a sip of water, and just plop some of it on.
•Body issues? Breathe, it happens baby. Close your eyes, breathe in and out. If you feel like you’re too thin, try to eat a sandwich worth more a day and avoid tons of cardio. Feel too thick? I used to pace around my house to procrastinate doing something else. (Like making the bed) it may be bad to procrastinate but it’s still something.
•Dont put soap on your goodies
•Honestly showering- actually showering- is so fucking hard. Like I forget to actually bath and instead I’ll stand under the running water for an hour zoned the fuck out. Don’t worry. I understand. Put a reminder (sticky note) somewhere in the bathroom you know you’ll see it right before you bathe. Then once you see it try to keep reminding yourself and hop in the shower. Immediately grab the shampoo- don’t wait to adjust to the water. Shampoo, condition. You’re tired? I know. It’s okay. I am too. You can squeeze the sponge or rag over your thighs and body and rub just a little if you can’t finish. If you can: ankles & calves first. Then under arms and tummy. Next go for your thighs, then back up to your arms. Finally you can attempt to wash your back and butt. Really tired but don’t want to get out now? I still have you~ options: a bath OR you can sit down in the shower OR get out. Be careful with sitting in the shower. If you notice your hunching over, either get out and go lay flat on the mattress or lay down in a bath. For getting out: turn the water cold and Pat your face with it. When you get out, splurdge on some toner. Congratulations, sweetheart! You did it. Im proud of you!
•Eating problems? If you overeat: Try to eliminate one to two snacks you’d normally have a day. Under eat? Try to get down an extra bowl worth of food a day. Note:, this does not mean eventually cut out all snacks…etc. keep it consistent.
•Back pain? I understand. Cooling pads of some sort may help. A heat pad may also help when sitting. Try to sleep on your back when. You lay down. I find it helps relieve the pressure.
•Unclench your jaw and relax your shoulders.
•Try to shave your legs once every two weeks if you can. Here’s how to get it done: shave half a leg a day. One day, shave your right thigh, the next, your right calf and knee…etc. keep repeating this once or twice a week if you can. If not? I understand.
•Wash that one pair of Clothes™ you wear constantly and never wash.
•Get new undies, seriously, it will make you feel good. They dont need to be expensive.
•A heating pad or cooling gel thing behind your neck-shoulder area does fucking wonders.
•Goal: cook one actual meal a month if possible.
•Listen to piano and try to sleep.
•The flatter you lay, the deeper your sleep.
•Did you just wake up? Don’t want to move or breathe? Kick your covers off. Completely. Off the bed if needed. Set a timer for 10 minutes and roll around. Groan and kick and screech if you gotta. Now get up, go sit down at the table and try to eat. If you fail, repeat. If you can’t do it? That’s okay. Try again tomorrow babe.
•Baby powder + roots of hair = acts as dry shampoo
•Castor oil + hair (specifically roots) = thicker, longer hair
•Coconut oil + ends of hair = softer, fluffier, longer hair.
•Try to apply these once every two months if you can.
•Need teeth rushing motivation? Put a spoonful of coconut oil in your mouth and swish for 10-20 minutes. Done?? Now you have to go brush your teeth.
•Chocolate milk is still pretty good for you. Fuck what people say.
•A cup of cranberry juice a week will give you benefits overall.
•Cant cook anything? Don’t want to move? Literally feel like death???? It’s ok. Drink a nutrition shake. Don’t need to be expensive.
•Set a bed time. Follow it.
•Cartoons really do help. Watch them when. You sleep.
•Set a daily goal and try to get to it. If you can’t, it’s okay, cry and try again tomorrow.
•Clean your house little by little..procrastinate by doing something else. Example: don’t feel like doing dishes? Vacuum. Don’t wanna clean the bathroom? Do the dishes. Use it as a way to procrastinate if you gotta.
•Put a spoon under your pillow and it’ll stop the nightmares ngl. I still do this.
•Try to get help.
•Give yourself time off and credit. You fight ur brain and that’s pretty fucking brave baby.
•its ok, youll get there!
•this may seem.lkle a basic ass post but it really does help.
•oh and, I’ll love you even if you don’t love you
•P.S. it’s 7 am and I haven’t slept. So. Sorry for the typos in this post…plus im on mobile rn rip. I love you. M w a h. Love yourself, love myself