2. Call a trusted friend or family member and talk it out.
3. Call in sick. Take comp time if you can. Take a mental health day.
4. Say no to extra obligations, chores, or anything that pulls on your precious self-care time.
5. Book a session (or more!) with your therapist.
6. Dial down your expectations of yourself at this time. When you’re going through life’s tough times, I invite you to soften your expectations of yourself and others.
7. Tuck yourself into bed early with a good book and clean sheets.
8. Watch a comforting/silly/funny/lighthearted TV show or movie.
9. Reread your favorite picture and chapter books from childhood.
10. Ask for some love and tenderness from your friends on social media. Let them comment on your post and remind you that you’re loved.
24. Go to a 12-Step meeting. Or any group meeting where support is offered. Check out church listings, hospital listings, school listings for examples.
25. If you suspect something may be physiologically off with you, go see your doctor and/or psychiatrist and talk to them. Medication might help you at this time and they can assist you in assessing this.
26. Take a long, hot bath, light a candle and pamper yourself.
32. Write it out. Free form in a journal or a Google doc. Get it all out and vent.
33. Create a plan if you’re feeling overwhelmed. List out what you need to do next to tackle and address whatever you’re facing. Chunk it down into manageable and understandable pieces.
34. Remember: You only have to get through the next five minutes. Then the next five. And so on.
35. Take five minutes to meditate.
36. Write out a list of 25 Reasons Why You’ll Be OK.
37. Write out a list of 25 Examples of Things You’ve Overcome or Accomplished.
38. Write out a list of 25 Reasons Why You’re a Good, Lovable Person.
39. Write out a list of 25 Things That Make Your Life Beautiful.
40. Sniff some scents that bring you joy or remind you of happier times.
41. Ask for support from friends and family via text if voice-to-voice contact feels like too much. Ask them to check in with you via text daily/weekly. Whatever you need.
42. Lay down on the ground. Let the earth/floor hold you. You don’t have to hold it all on your own.
43. Clean up a corner of a room of your house. Sometimes tidying up can help calm our minds.
44. Ask yourself: What’s my next most immediate priority? Do that. Then ask the question again.
46. Take a tech break. Delete or deactivate social media if it feels too triggering right now.
47. Or maybe get on tech. If you’ve been isolating maybe even interacting with friends and family online might feel good.
48. Go out in public and be around others. You don’t have to engage. But maybe go sit in a coffee shop or on a bench at a museum and soak up the humanity around you.
49. Or if you’re feeling too saturated with contact, go home. Cancel plans and tend to the introverted parts of yourself.
50. Ask friends and family to remind you that things will be OK and that what you’re feeling is temporary.
51. Put up some Christmas lights in your bedroom. They often make things more magical.
52. Spend a little money and treat yourself to some self-care and comfort. Maybe take a taxi versus the bus. Buy your lunch instead of forcing yourself to pack it. Buy some flowers that delight you.
53. Make art. Scribble with crayons. Splash some watercolors. Paint a rock. Whatever. Just create something.
54. Go wander around outside in your neighborhood and take a look at all the lovely houses and the way people decorate their gardens. Delight in the diversity of design.
55. Go visit or volunteer at your local animal rescue. Pet some animals.
56. Look at photos of people you love. Set them as the wallpaper of your phone or laptop.
57. Create and listen to a playlist of songs that remind you of happier times.
58. Read some spiritual literature.
59. Scream, pound pillows, tear up paper, shake your body to move the energy out.
62. Turn off the lights, sit down, stare into space and do absolutely nothing.
63. Pick one or two things that feel like progress and do them. Make your bed. Put away the dishes. Return an email.
64. Go to a church or spiritual community service. Sit among others and absorb any guidance or grace that feels good to you.
65. Allow yourself to fantasize about what you’re hoping or longing for. There are clues and energy in your reveries and daydreams that are worth paying attention to.
76. Listen to sad songs or watch sad movies if you need a good cry.
77. Dance around wildly to your favorite, most cheesy songs from your high school years.
78. Put your hands in dirt. If you have a garden, go garden. If you have some indoor plants, tend to them. If you don’t have plants or a garden, go outside. Go to a local nursery and touch and smell all the gorgeous plants.
79. If you want to stay in bed all day watching Netflix, do it. Indulge.
80. Watch or listen to some comedy shows or goofy podcasts.
81. Look for and Google up examples of people who have gone through and made it through what you’re currently facing. Seek out models of inspiration.
82. Get expert help with whatever you need. Whether that’s through therapy, psychiatry, a lawyer, clergy, let those trained to support you do it.
83. Educate yourself about what you’re going through. Learn about what you’re facing, what you can expect to feel, and how you can support yourself in this place.
84. Establish a routine and stick to it. Routines can bring so much comfort and grounding in times of life that feel chaotic or out of control.
87. Go outside and set up a chair and watch the sunset.
88. Make your own list of self-soothing activities that engage all five of your senses.
89. Develop a supportive morning ritual for yourself.
90. Develop a relaxing evening ritual for yourself.
91. Join a support group for people who are going through what you’re going through. Check out the listings at local hospitals, libraries, churches, and universities to see what’s out there.
92. Volunteer at a local shelter or hospital or nursing home. Practice being of service to others who may also be going through a tough time.
93. Accompany a friend or family member to something. Even if it’s just keeping them company while they run errands, sometimes this kind of contact can feel like good self-care.
94. Take your dog for a walk. Or borrow a friend’s dog and take them for a walk.
98. Work with your doctor, naturopath or nutritionist to develop a physical exercise plan and food plan that will be supportive to whatever you’re facing right now.
99. Pray. Meditate. Write a letter to God/The Universe/Source/Your Higher Self, whatever you believe in.
100. As much as you can, please try and trust the process.
101. Finally, please remember, what you’re going through right now is temporary. It may not feel like that from inside the tough time you’re in, but this too shall pass and you will feel different again someday. If you can’t have faith in that, let me hold the hope for you
1. Use periodic table abbreviations as sigils for the element it stands for and that element’s correspondence
2. Use the official Latin word for animals as mantras/spells to work with what that animal represents
3. Use chemistry knowledge and utensils to make potions.
4. Develop rituals that coincide with psychological techniques and log the psychological effects rituals have on you
5. Create spells by making math equations adding and subtracting numbers based on their correspondences (+ what you want to attract, – what you want to banish, × what you want to increase, ÷ what you want to lessen). The solution can be used like a sigil.
6. Create mini temples, either mapped out in blueprints or made physically for offerings
7. Build model rockets or airplanes and write affirmations on the side (write it in pencil or on a whiteboard surface if you want to reuse) and launch that spell way up there
tbh I’m still mad about the last time someone brought up the Law of Attraction to me, so I haven’t really been able to touch a lot of the discussion about it happening on my dashboard right now because I get so upset, but just to remind y’all where I stand
That’s not the law here
Most folks don’t seem to understand it anyway
and aren’t using it right to begin with
and even when that’s not the case I STILL DON’T FUCK WITH IT
because I grew up in abusive household where the LoA was used to keep me compliant and blame me for the abuse that happened
and tbh fuck that
Hey guess what the law of attraction was made up by the kind of fucklord who wrote The Secret and doesn’t fucking real
…I can’t tell if you’re responding to me or just…chiming in…but uh
If you’re responding to me, I really feel like…that’s inappropriate?
If you’re chiming in…uh….well, honestly, either way, I have the same answer regardless and it’s this:
Whether or not the LoA is real, and regardless of whichever asshole came up with it in the 1800s – and I don’t care about either of those things – there are people who believe in it. And some of those people use that belief to perpetuate abuse!
And hey guess what, that is very much real.
Soooooooooo….don’t know where you want me to go from there! Thank you for your input!!
I love that theres an active witch community on tumblr but could y’all please learn about the law of attraction and the process of manifestation before posting your dumb ass spells and spreading misinformation. Making spells to repel things you specifically fear is still gonna attract that specific thing into your life lmao
The universe doesnt hear what you say it hears what you mean and when you have some subject active in your vibration, it doesnt matter if you say “I don’t want to experience bad people” the universe responds to your active vibration focused on bad people. This universe is attraction based, and inclusion based. End of story. Be smart with your craft, not trendy. Safe travels and much love despite my saltiness
This is going around a lot online ever since the LOA book came out (and all the merchandise), but really, I haven’t actually noticed the universe working this way. I don’t think it’s misinformation if other witches like me post spells written with their own understanding of the universe in mind, particularly when it has a lot of clout to back it up.
If you look at most older grimoires, they’re full of repelling spells, ward-evil spells, and such, so this isn’t a “trendy” modern thing – it’s always been part of witchcraft. This whole “only think good thoughts or else you lower your vibration and the nanny universe will punish you” business is actually rather new.
It’s also not like most people using the term know what a “vibration” actually means. This whole “raise you vibration” is particularly funny to me, because it’s never defined and is mostly a buzzword. I’d like it if folks would actually research what the word means before throwing it around.
And, plus, a lot of those warding spells work pretty well if you put in the effort. I don’t get this whole “it doesn’t hear what you say, it hears what you mean,” thing – wouldn’t that suggest such spells would be effective? Witches don’t cast a warding spell because they subconsciously want to draw in evil forces. They do it because, uh, they meanto ward themselves.
Think about it this way – nobody actually wants to (for example) get mugged, but it happens anyways to many people. It’s not because they subconsciously attract a mugging and secretly want to get mugged. It’s just because some people are criminals who mug people. I could give more disturbing examples, but you get the idea.
Everyone wants to talk about the LOA as in “Oh I manifested/attracted a new fur coat!” but people shy away from the real implications of it, or handwave them. Most people, anyways. I have heard LOA folks tell people with disabilities that they’re to blame for their disability for having a “low vibration.”
I had a roommate a few years back who was really into the LOA. She actually tried to get rid of me because she thought my depression was “lowering the vibration” of the house. She constantly blamed me for bad things happening because she thought I “attracted them” simply by being bipolar and having a depressive episode. If someone wants that perspective in their Craft, I’m sure nothing will dissuade them. I do know I don’t include such views in mine.
I don’t include LOA in my system either. Maybe you do, but don’t assume everyone works in the same paradigm as you. Same goes for the threefold law. Neither of those have any place in my witchcraft practice that I’ve formed for over a decade and has worked out pretty well for me so far.
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