A small guide to self love from someone who isn’t going to tell you a manicure or face mask will fix everything. Queen loves you, always. There’s so much more but here take this. It’s basically just tips fjhshdoajdks
•Stop reading shit on eating little amounts of food a day to be “thin” and “healthy”. It’s bullshit, it’s lies, run from it.
•Pick a symbol or make one yourself. That symbol is something I want you to hold dear to you. The symbol should mean: self love, recovery, joy, freedom..etc. to you. It can be the fucking “&” symbol. Just pick one, babe.
•Have a motto, or several. Try something inspiring.
•For anorexics: get help, even when you don’t want to. The more you don’t want the help, the more you need the help.
•What’s holding you down that’s toxic? That bitchy ex boyfriend? Drop him. That fucking annoying friend that makes fun of you? Drop. Her.
•Its okay to cry. Cry, im here for you.
•Try to brush your teeth, even though it’s hard.
•Eat a fruit a week if you can.
•Skin issues? Making you hate you more? Tea tree oil, toner, water. Keep a water bottle, the oil, toner, and some tissue by your bed. When you go to sleep, even if you’re tired as hell. Take a sip of water, and just plop some of it on.
•Body issues? Breathe, it happens baby. Close your eyes, breathe in and out. If you feel like you’re too thin, try to eat a sandwich worth more a day and avoid tons of cardio. Feel too thick? I used to pace around my house to procrastinate doing something else. (Like making the bed) it may be bad to procrastinate but it’s still something.
•Dont put soap on your goodies
•Honestly showering- actually showering- is so fucking hard. Like I forget to actually bath and instead I’ll stand under the running water for an hour zoned the fuck out. Don’t worry. I understand. Put a reminder (sticky note) somewhere in the bathroom you know you’ll see it right before you bathe. Then once you see it try to keep reminding yourself and hop in the shower. Immediately grab the shampoo- don’t wait to adjust to the water. Shampoo, condition. You’re tired? I know. It’s okay. I am too. You can squeeze the sponge or rag over your thighs and body and rub just a little if you can’t finish. If you can: ankles & calves first. Then under arms and tummy. Next go for your thighs, then back up to your arms. Finally you can attempt to wash your back and butt. Really tired but don’t want to get out now? I still have you~ options: a bath OR you can sit down in the shower OR get out. Be careful with sitting in the shower. If you notice your hunching over, either get out and go lay flat on the mattress or lay down in a bath. For getting out: turn the water cold and Pat your face with it. When you get out, splurdge on some toner. Congratulations, sweetheart! You did it. Im proud of you!
•Eating problems? If you overeat: Try to eliminate one to two snacks you’d normally have a day. Under eat? Try to get down an extra bowl worth of food a day. Note:, this does not mean eventually cut out all snacks…etc. keep it consistent.
•Back pain? I understand. Cooling pads of some sort may help. A heat pad may also help when sitting. Try to sleep on your back when. You lay down. I find it helps relieve the pressure.
•Unclench your jaw and relax your shoulders.
•Try to shave your legs once every two weeks if you can. Here’s how to get it done: shave half a leg a day. One day, shave your right thigh, the next, your right calf and knee…etc. keep repeating this once or twice a week if you can. If not? I understand.
•Wash that one pair of Clothes™ you wear constantly and never wash.
•Get new undies, seriously, it will make you feel good. They dont need to be expensive.
•A heating pad or cooling gel thing behind your neck-shoulder area does fucking wonders.
•Goal: cook one actual meal a month if possible.
•Listen to piano and try to sleep.
•The flatter you lay, the deeper your sleep.
•Did you just wake up? Don’t want to move or breathe? Kick your covers off. Completely. Off the bed if needed. Set a timer for 10 minutes and roll around. Groan and kick and screech if you gotta. Now get up, go sit down at the table and try to eat. If you fail, repeat. If you can’t do it? That’s okay. Try again tomorrow babe.
•Baby powder + roots of hair = acts as dry shampoo
•Castor oil + hair (specifically roots) = thicker, longer hair
•Coconut oil + ends of hair = softer, fluffier, longer hair.
•Try to apply these once every two months if you can.
•Need teeth rushing motivation? Put a spoonful of coconut oil in your mouth and swish for 10-20 minutes. Done?? Now you have to go brush your teeth.
•Chocolate milk is still pretty good for you. Fuck what people say.
•A cup of cranberry juice a week will give you benefits overall.
•Cant cook anything? Don’t want to move? Literally feel like death???? It’s ok. Drink a nutrition shake. Don’t need to be expensive.
•Set a bed time. Follow it.
•Cartoons really do help. Watch them when. You sleep.
•Set a daily goal and try to get to it. If you can’t, it’s okay, cry and try again tomorrow.
•Clean your house little by little..procrastinate by doing something else. Example: don’t feel like doing dishes? Vacuum. Don’t wanna clean the bathroom? Do the dishes. Use it as a way to procrastinate if you gotta.
•Put a spoon under your pillow and it’ll stop the nightmares ngl. I still do this.
•Try to get help.
•Give yourself time off and credit. You fight ur brain and that’s pretty fucking brave baby.
•its ok, youll get there!
•this may seem.lkle a basic ass post but it really does help.
•oh and, I’ll love you even if you don’t love you
•P.S. it’s 7 am and I haven’t slept. So. Sorry for the typos in this post…plus im on mobile rn rip. I love you. M w a h. Love yourself, love myself
Foods:Stay away from caffeine (coffee) and sugar (pop/soda, chocolate, sugary snacks) for they create more intense cramps. Avoid cool foods as well (chilled dishes, ice cream *sobs*, etc.) Instead choose a diet of fresh fruit and vegetables. Go low on meat, dairy, and processed foods, and consume more “warming” meals (soup, tea, steamed vegetables).
Stretches and Practices That Help: Bring your knees to your chin while lying on your back and stay in position before lowering your legs again. Repeat a few times.
Or lie on your knees and bring your forehead down to touch the floor, or however far you can go comfortably. Stretch your arms ahead of you on the floor and breathe, like a feline. Hold for a moment or a minute. Continue as long as needed (look up other stretches in books or online to suit your personal needs).
• Use a hot water bottle, warm towel, or fill a warm bath to soak in to relax your abdominal and body muscles. • Exercise. As much as most of us hate it. It starts off by distracting you from the pain and it increases menstrual flow so your period is over quicker.
Turn Into Tea Drinkers: Have lots of it, especially herbal ones with beneficial menstrual effects. Drink the types shown below one to three times a day as needed during the month of and during your cycle (consult a qualified healthcare provider before using just in case of allergic reactions):
Cramp Bark: Relieves any tense muscles, and relaxes excessive contractions of the uterus that also aids with back pain.
False Unicorn Root: More commonly used to help with fertility amongst other lavish things, this can be still used to deal with menstrual pain, although, this species is threatened, so please try not to use it!
Red Raspberry Leaf: This combats cramps and lightens blood flow.
White Dead Nettle: Once again a plant with many uses, such as sore throats and skin inflammations, although it needs to be applied to the direct area if used. Drink the tea for cramps, but other uses mostly require direct plant contact.
Homeopathic Remedies:You can take these in forms of pills; The homeopathic pills aim to trigger the body’s natural system of healing through plant-based medicines, not chemical substances. Once again, consult your physicians before using for dosage levels and body reactions:
Magnesium Phosphate: Used for all sorts of cramps, it is said if taken with hot water it improves its action.
Apis Mellifica: If you’re allergic to bees do not use this!
Maca Root: Cycle changes happen due to hormonal imbalance. This regulates hormones that control the function of the ovaries. They’re available in powder form or capsules.
Belladonna: Sackville-Baggins.
Blue Cohosh (Caulophyllum Thalictoides): Used commonly in tiny capsules, blue cohosh can also help with labour pains.
Chamomile: This plant contains high levels of glycine, which is a chemical that relieves muscle spasms and relaxes nerves. Higher glycine levels relax the uterus, therefore relaxes cramps.
Sabina: This lightens the blood flow as well works against vomiting from cramps and sorts of headaches and pain in the temples.
Nux Vomica: The seeds are taken from this plant and dried to remove the poison from its seeds. Various herbal preparations are made from these, including tinctures.
Chaste Berry: Take this preferably in a 20mg dose once to three times a day. This will help with hopefully cramps and to lighten your blood flow during menstruation.
Essential Oils and Such:These can be used in a warm bath or to rub onto your abdomen with a dilution of vegetable or (preferably) olive oil:
Chamomile
Lavender
Melissa
Marjoram
Rosemary
And to lighten your flow, rub the mixture below onto your stomach every night during menstruation. I got this nifty recipe from the internet, but have yet to test it:
• 2 tablespoon of a carrier oil (olive oil or sweet almond oil) • 2 drops of rose attar • 2 drops of Roman chamomile • 2 drops of Clary sage • 4 drops of sweet marjoram
Lastly, if you drink yarrow tincture a week before your period, it acts as a homeostatic that reduces bleeding by contracting tissues or blood vessels. You can buy this premade or make it yourself with the aid of a glass jar and some vodka:
ABC Homeopathy.” ABC Homeopathy. N.p., n.d. Web. 28 June 2014.
Curtis, Susan, and Romy Fraser. Natural Healing for Women: Caring for Yourself with Herbs, Homoeopathy & Essential Oils. London: Thorsons, 2003. Print.
Lawless, Julia. The Illustrated Encyclopedia of Essential Oils: The Complete Guide to the Use of Oils in Aromatherapy and Herbalism. Shaftesbury, Dorset: Element, 1995. Print.
Lust, John B. The Herb Book. New York: B. Lust Publications, 1974. Print.
Weiss, Gaea, and Shandor Weiss. Growing & Using the Healing Herbs. Emmaus, PA: Rodale, 1985. Print.
If your sacred space is a mess take some time to clean it up
Drink water and make sure you’ve eaten, can’t do magick without energy afterall
Spend some time taking some relaxing breaths maybe even meditate a bit
Seriously though cleanse everything!
Take any medications you’re supposed to take
Look into a mirror and repeat positive affirmations about yourself, magick works better when you believe in yourself plus it gives you a mood boost
Spend some time outside even if you’re not really doing anything except breathing it’s still a good thing to get fresh air
Seriously drink plenty of water
Seriously eat something today
Make sure to properly bathe yourself
Take care of any animals that you may have, feed them, give them water, pet them, brush them, play with them…
Take care of any family members who may need extra care
Call your friends, family, Coven members if you’ve been struggling and let them know you’re okay
Sit outside underneath the stars and admire the beauty of them, remember we are all made of stardust
Stretch out those muscles even just a little bit!
Brush your hair, clean your teeth, wash your face
Maybe do a face mask
If you have plants take care of those too, water them, do any weeding that may be necessary, any pruning…
Make a nice well rounded meal and make sure you eat it
If anyone else has anything they’d like to add onto this post feel free to do so and I’ll reblog it when additions are made!
Hey y’all! I just did a huge unfollowing spree of over 100 inactive blogs, soooooo, if you post any of the following, like this post, and I’ll check your blog out!
Save 10% of each check and put it into your savings. Living paycheck to paycheck will never keep you ahead of the game.
If you’re undecided about a career, pickup a trade or work your way up the ladder at your job. Do not continue to work in the same position for more than 2-3 years.
Seek therapy for your issues instead of self medicating with casual sex or drugs, venting to your friends constantly, becoming antisocial or co-dependant on someone. It’s not healthy.
If you’re not receiving the same energy you put into a friendship or relationship, leave. You are not a doormat.
I have $24 to last me til Friday, what should I buy with it?
a pallet of ramen noodles
I hate ramen noodles tho
hmmmmm
bees?
Are you suggesting that I eat bees for a week
This is roughly what I make sure I have in my kitchen all the time along with rough estimates of local prices (MN). I buy a lot of things when they’re on sale and stockpile them.
instant oatmeal packets with fruit in them – $3 probably and this can be breakfast all week and maybe even a lunch or dinner too since you usually get 10 packets
bag of rice – $2-3 depending on size. 1 cup dry rice makes enough for about two meals depending on what you add in. if you get cheap rice, rinse it before cooking
canned beans – usually under $1 per can – mix the can with your rice and you have a meal. chili-spiced beans will make bean tacos. Rinse non-spiced beans before adding to anything.
Tortilla – usually around $3 but you get like 8-10 of them. Tacos, wraps, and quesadillas are all fair game here
lettuce – $2 max around here, either a head of something or bagged precut depending on preference, use as a salad or on tacos
protein other than beans of some sort – probably $5-7 for meat, $2-3 for eggs. sometimes I can get bags of frozen chicken breasts in this price range and each is usually 2 meals if I add in a bunch of veggies. fry/scramble eggs and add to any of the options.
your favorite stir fry sauce – $3ish
vegetables – $5ish. literally anything that you can 1. fry in a pan and 2. you’ll eat. fresh carrots are usually pretty cheap. get frozen if it’s cheaper and you’re strapped for cash/prep time on this part.
alternative to stir fry: pasta (~$2), fresh tomatoes (~$2), cheese (~$3).
cheese and fruit if you have extra – look if your store has loyalty cards for free that you can load coupons on for cheese there’s always one it seems like.
ahh thank you!!!
Reblogging because there’s never knowing who’ll need it.
Adding also: the single most nutritious food on earth is potatoes in their peel. Potatoes + some milk and butter = everything you need. They don’t last all that long, but they’re fairly cheap and the quickest cheat to “How do I not fuck my body up.”
(Cooked potatoes’ll last a while in the fridge. Potatoes nearing the end of their useful lives? Cook them to half-done first, figure out what to do with them later.)
Easiest baked potatoes: slice thinly but not paper-like, spread like cards, brush with oil (a silicone baking brush is totes worth the little it costs), spread salt and pepper (a little less than you think you’d like), cover with foil, stick in oven or toaster-oven at 150C for 40min. (If you have the patience, at that point click up to 180C, remove the cover and add 10-20min.) Reheats well, lasts in the fridge longer than it’ll take you to nom.
Dead-Animal-Free Whole Protein: some legumes + some grain. AKA rice and lentils, or rice and beans. (Maybe some fried onion for flavor; onion’s cheap and stays good a descent while. Fried onion makes everything taste better and keeps forever in the freezer, so frying up a bunch and keeping portions is not a half-bad idea.) (If going for the beans option – lentils are cheaper around here but fuck if I know what it’s like in your area – dump some tomato sauce and oil in; canola or soy are best health-wise, and far cheaper than olive; avoid corn.) Oh, what does instant couscous go for in your area? It keeps for fucking ever, it’s usually cheap, and it takes well to any and all added taste.
If you get to choose, black lentils taste the best and need the least soak-time (0-20min), green lentils are best for cooked stuff and red lentils are best in soups. (Red lentils + potatoes + root vegetables of choice + spices; cut into small pieces, cook, run through the blender if you wanna [stick blender’s awesome], freeze in portions.)
When possible, get instant soup mix. Get the good instant soup mix. (The kind that’s not made primarily of sugar, yeast or both. The rest is optional.) Dump 1/2tsp (or more, but start on the low end) into couscous, or chicken, or sprinkle over potatoes being stuck in the oven. Whatever. It’ll make most cooked-food-type things taste better. And again, lasts forever on the shelf.
If you can have eggs (goodness knows they’re sometimes expensive), dump some tomato sauce in a pan (tomato sauce lasts forever on the shelf), add some oil, onion/beans to cook in it, hot peppers if you wanna, then when it’s nearly ready crack an egg or two in. Hard-boiled eggs last a remarkably while in the fridge, so when eggs reach near the end of their usable lives, just hard-boil and stick in the fridge.
(Have eggs as often as you can, particularly as you have brain-shit going on. You need all the eggs, salt, and 60%-or-more chocolate you can get. Brains are made of cholesterol and salt, so folks with neuro or other brain shit need more of both. Potassium is also aces. You know what has the most potassium? Tomato paste.)
Grated cheese keeps in the freezer for ever. Grated cheese will make a lot of things taste nicer. Preserved lemon juice keeps forever in the fridge. Grated cheese + oil + lemon = instant and awesome pasta sauce that’ll liven up the weeks-old dry pasta in the fridge.
Slices bread also keeps well in the freezer. Try to have half a loaf or a loaf. Dry bread gets cut in cubes, mixed with oil and the aforementioned instant soup, stuck in oven at lowest until properly dry, then kept in an airtight jar to add to soups.
(Over-ripe tomatoes come cheaper. They get turned into soup or sauce, then frozen in portions.)
this is a very good post but why are we glossing over the fact that the alternative to ramen is bees
i have it on pretty good authority that bees are not an affordable eating alternative to ramen.
Seriously, bees are expensive
Trufax.
And speaking as someone who is also living off oatmeal, beans, and brown rice, if you need recipes, I have them!
Today I made 16 bean soup with chicken sausage and it was crazy good and I got 8 servings out of the one batch (froze half). I usually get the cheapest beans I can find, and GOYA bags of beans are usually $1-2. I soaked them overnight,rinsed them, and threw them in a gallon lidded saucepan with 2 boxes of chicken stock (also on sale for $2), two bay leaves, sauteed green pepper, onion, and celery, some garlic from a jar, about two tablespoons of dried herbs de provence,and the “fancy” bit was adding $6 bourbon and apple chicken sausages. You can actually sub veg stock for chicken and skip the sausage and make it vegan and it would still taste great.
Oh and I’ve been doing steel-cut oats. I don’t buy the name brand ones, I just pick whatever store brand/generic I can get for less than $4. They take about ½ an hour to make, but they’re super tasty and I make 2 cups
of dried oats at a time
with dried cranberries and that’s breakfast for 4 days at least.
I’ve also been making black bean soup, red beans and rice, and curried potatoes and chick peas. I got 100 quart and pint take-away containers from Amazon for $20 and they all stack neatly and are perf for one serving of whatever.
Additionally, depending on where you live, whole rotisserie chickens are something like $4-$7 and are easily 4 – 6 servings of protein and on TOP of that, if you stick the carcass in a ziplock bag and then the freezer you have excellent soup makings. Using bones in soup literally squeezes all viable vitamins and minerals out of the suckers. Soup made from lots of bones is great to keep around if you get sick, it’ll feed and sooth you relatively easily and as you get better you can add noodles. ON TOP OF THAT, a quarter to a half cup of soup broth added to a lot of dishes also adds those nutrients PLUS flavor.
push yourself to get up before the rest of the world – start with 7am, then 6am, then 5:30am. go to the nearest hill with a big coat and a scarf and watch the sun rise.
push yourself to fall asleep earlier – start with 11pm, then 10pm, then 9pm. wake up in the morning feeling re-energized and comfortable.
get into the habit of cooking yourself a beautiful breakfast. fry tomatoes and mushrooms in real butter and garlic, fry an egg, slice up a fresh avocado and squirt way too much lemon on it. sit and eat it and do nothing else.
stretch. start by reaching for the sky as hard as you can, then trying to touch your toes. roll your head. stretch your fingers. stretch everything.
buy a 1L water bottle. start with pushing yourself to drink the whole thing in a day, then try drinking it twice.
buy a beautiful diary and a beautiful black pen. write down everything you do, including dinner dates, appointments, assignments, coffees, what you need to do that day. no detail is too small.
strip your bed of your sheets and empty your underwear draw into the washing machine. put a massive scoop of scented fabric softener in there and wash. make your bed in full.
organise your room. fold all your clothes (and bag what you don’t want), clean your mirror, your laptop, vacuum the floor. light a beautiful candle.
have a luxurious shower with your favourite music playing. wash your hair, scrub your body, brush your teeth. lather your whole body in moisturiser, get familiar with the part between your toes, your inner thighs, the back of your neck.
push yourself to go for a walk. take your headphones, go to the beach and walk. smile at strangers walking the other way and be surprised how many smile back. bring your dog and observe the dog’s behaviour. realise you can learn from your dog.
message old friends with personal jokes. reminisce. suggest a catch up soon, even if you don’t follow through. push yourself to follow through.
think long and hard about what interests you. crime? sex? boarding school? long-forgotten romance etiquette? find a book about it and read it. there is a book about literally everything.
become the person you would ideally fall in love with. let cars merge into your lane when driving. pay double for parking tickets and leave a second one in the machine. stick your tongue out at babies. compliment people on their cute clothes. challenge yourself to not ridicule anyone for a whole day. then two. then a week. walk with a straight posture. look people in the eye. ask people about their story. talk to acquaintances so they become friends.
lie in the sunshine. daydream about the life you would lead if failure wasn’t a thing. open your eyes. take small steps to make it happen for you.
Bras last longer if you let them air dry. Don’t put them in the dryer.
If you have a problem with frizzy hair, don’t dry your hair with a towel. It makes the frizzies worse. (I recently read an article that said to use a t-shirt? I brush mine out and let it air dry.)
Whites wash best in hot water. Everything else can be in cold – save on your electricity bill.
You can kill 99.9% of germs in a sponge by putting it in the dishwasher for a cycle or by microwaving it for 2 min (be sure to make the sponge damp before microwaving and to put a cup half full of water in with it and please DO NOT squeeze the sponge until it has cooled off)
Airing out your room/house and letting sunlight in every so often can decrease the number of household pests like silverfish and ants.
Black underwear is best during your period as stains are less likely to be visible.
To save money, put aside 10% of each paycheck into a savings account. It’ll add up.
Unless your hair has something on/in it (like grease or mud or something), using conditioner first can actually be the better choice. The conditioner holds in the good oils that help you hair look sleek and beautiful, which shampoo would otherwise wash away.
Speaking of shampoo – if you have long hair, washing just the bits that touch your scalp is generally enough. The rest of your hair gets cleaned with just the run off from your scalp.
If you put a tampon in and it’s uncomfortable/you can feel it, you didn’t do it quite right. A properly placed tampon is virtually unnoticeable by the wearer.
Apply deodorant/antiperspirant a couple hours in advance of when you need it. This gives the product the chance to block your sweat glands. Using deodorant just before going somewhere where you’ll sweat (this means walking outside for people in high humidity places) results in your sweat washing the deodorant off and starkly limiting its usefulness.
After running the dryer, use the dryer sheet from that load to brush out the lint catch – it gets everything off in a fraction of the time it’ll take you to get it clean with your bare hands. Paper towels also work well.
Wash your face everyday, or as often as possible. Forget which brand of cleanser is best. Just washing your face everyday will guarantee you clearer skin. And do you best not to pop pimples, as tempting as the urge may be.
Fold laundry asap after taking it from the dryer to avoid wrinkles. This may seem obvious for dress shirts and silly for things like t-shirts, but you’ll notice the difference even then once your shirts stop looking like unfolded paper balls.
To all the kids whose parents couldn’t help you with this kind of stuff
Addition: the natural acidity of a vagina can bleach the gusset on darker underwear. It’s perfectly normal.
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